One of the conundrum of D/s is about service and care:

Allegedly the submissive pledges their service and obedience to their Dominant, yet they rarely acknowledge the care involved in taking them in training, and the creativity, skills expanded in exploring with them their sexual urges, fantasies etc. Whilst they might appreciate the ingenuity and talent a Dominant deploys when nailing, thus gratifying a particular trigger, they mistake it for submission, service and care. The power exchange doesn’t really happen. The Dominant might still feel the joy and power in her accomplishment in leading her submissive to their place of bliss, yet knows that power exchange can be deepened.

Consensual Power Exchange demands a psychological, sometimes a spiritual expression, whether acknowledged intellectually or not. It demands an integration of sexuality into one’s one psyche and offers the possibility of transformation into a more harmonious, whole.

One of the fundamental tools of Power Exchange is orgasm control, denial and chastity…

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I adore having a busy week, my thirst for filth being satisfied over and over with each doomed pervert that walks through the door receiving a more feral version of me than the last.


This last week or two has been my busiest by far, I've had a few extended bondage sessions which is definitely a new favourite, which really surprised me as it was something I could take or leave before. I really enjoy watching someone struggle, which they always do after I encase them in a leather sack and leave them with a venus 2000 on their member.


I also had a few toilet sessions, with one submissive begging to see me again the next day, I had one evening to think of ways I could fuck with him, and by the end of our second session he was shaking from the pleasure of being underneath me and hearing me humiliate him.


I also had newbies, who wanted light domination for their first session, and I take this as an opportunity to lean into my inner flirt, there is nothing quite like teasing a new sub and then denying them, I love to lead them on and then break them. I also just love pushing horny boys around, the ones who try and hide their hard on, and never fight back.


Lastly, I had a multi hour session with a sub who is looking to serve me regularly, although last year he made a very bad first impression, so of course my inner sadist came out, not only did I thoroughly punish him in session, I've been sending him on tasks almost every day since all over Edinburgh. I think next week I'll send him on a mission for things that don't exist, and see what he comes back with.


I wish that every week was filled with this much fun, but a girl can dream.

Slaves, Servants, and Sinners of London – your time has come. I am here, commanding presence in Knightsbridge and Camden for one day only. Consider this your summons.

You will call me.
You will surrender.
You will come to me.

For the seasoned submissives : the ones who’ve knelt before and still feel the ghost of my touch – today is your chance to feed the craving. That delicious ache that only I can satisfy? Let it consume you once more.

And for the fresh, eager, unclaimed souls… curious, yearning, trembling with anticipation, now is your moment. Begin something wickedly new. Begin it under my control.

This isn’t an invitation.
It’s a command.